dependence
Written by: Mark
February 23rd, 2006After a deliciously inviting lunch with my totally rockin’ wife, I’ve been set on a course of thought that will last till at least the end of this sentence. Maybe the end of this blog…
Ever noticed how as humans we tend to move from codependency, to independence, to interdependence? I’m fascinated by this, and realize it has HUGE implications for how I handle relationships in ministry. Many times people get stuck in one stage or another; we can all readily recall one or two people who never really made it past the codependent stage; they felt so comfortable living in it during the growing-up years. Renegades and autocrats are considered stifled in the independent stage, considering themselves loners, or at best they are leading in a league of their own. Others may follow if and only if they abide by certain rules. It is truly our goal as individualistic Americans to move beyond isolation and independence and engage in healthy communities.
What is the real pull for relationship within humanity?
How are we biologically, emotionally, and spiritually charged to connect with those around us; and then why do so many people fall short of creating a healthy tension of interdependence?
I am currently a Community Minister at a local church in town. I suppose you could say it is my aim to see people move closer toward interdependence on each other and ultimate dependence on God. How would it do to pull out from that community to seek other communities? What are the relational repercussions of seeking “community” far and away from the “Community” ministry I am a part of within my congregation? In other words, can I be missional and loyal at the same time?
Just thinkin’.

