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  • Mark 12:29 pm on January 27, 2011 Permalink | Reply  

    Disowned by Your Dad, Owned by Your Father 

    I don’t know the relationship you have with your father, but if you are like many across this great big world, it may have its rocky points.  Maybe you were even traumatically abused, or disowned by your dad.  There’s little that can do more damage to a young boy or girl than to have a broken, immature dad in the household… but possibly worse is not having one in the house at all…

    63:16 Surely you are still our Father!

    Even if Abraham and Jacob would disown us,

    Lord, you would still be our Father.

    You are our Redeemer from ages past.

    Much of what you see in God, for better or worse, you originally got from your dad.  Even Jesus Christ, the very image of God, called the LORD his “Father” – Abba his word for “Papa.”  This kind of intimacy was scandalous in Jesus’ day – but as one who’s earthly dad was suspiciously absent, Jesus understood that God was to be his father now.

    Were was Jesus’ dad, Joseph?  After such a display of faith at Jesus’ conception and birth, he is never mentioned as Jesus enters adulthood.  Was he killed in a masonry accident?  Could he have abandoned the family?  Whatever the case, he was not there when Jesus was at his most crucial moments (his baptism, his temptations in the desert, his crucifixion…the list goes on and on.)

    A young man wants a mentor, a father to show him the way – to point out the path he should go in this life.  But truth be told, we have a lot of men in this world, and in the church who’d rather wallow in isolation, immaturity or passivity; and refuse the gift of fatherhood they’ve been given by God.

    Jesus only did what he saw his Father doing, and even with the absence of his earthly dad, he moved beyond the earthly example of fatherhood and pursued intimacy, and mentoring from his heavenly Father.

    Papa God wants this for each of his children – for you and me.  In an age where fatherhood has lost the vitality and the adventure and the abiding love it must have to create healthy, maturing people – God is ready to offer you that kind of relationship.

    Being disowned by your earthly father is not the end. Let it be what propels you into the arms of Papa God who is ready to train you as his son or daughter.

    What does being ‘fathered by God’ look like?

    You will be given his characteristics!

    First off, you may have to learn God’s capability to forgive - starting with your earthly father. He is still fighting through things himself, and will need your forgiveness.  But after that, only God knows where he’ll take you.  One thing is for sure – you will be given increasing maturity and capacity that only God has to handle the inevitable wounds of life, and the attacks of the Evil One.  You will charge out with God on mission – you will be given a new name, a new identity – sons and daughters of the King!

    All this – through God’s grace.  Thank you, Father.

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    • Sean Durbin 7:19 pm on January 27, 2011 Permalink

      Mark, there is so much good stuff from the LORD in this writing. One of the ways I can tell if someone is bringing up a principle that is of God is when the Spirit brings a scripture to my mind. This is the scripture He brought to me while and after reading your blog:Galatians 4″And because you are sons, God has sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, crying, “Abba! Father!” 7So you are no longer a slave, but a son, and if a son, then an heir through God.” LOVE IT. ad maiorem Dei gloriam

    • Mark W 3:42 pm on January 28, 2011 Permalink

      We have been adopted into God’s household! This means we live under a new kind of leadership – and we are given a new name (see the previous post “You are Whose You are”.) I want there to be an awakening across our nation – those that call themselves children of God – to begin to understand what that changes about how they actually live!

  • Mark 3:08 pm on January 5, 2011 Permalink | Reply  

    Restoring Families through …Adoption? 

    I read in the latest Time Magazine about an EXTREME version of adoption happening in St. Louis. The typical process for adoption into a permanent family among children in foster homes or orphanages can take years, and for children over the age of 10, those with disabilities, or African-American, it can be take even longer.  This is the sad truth of today’s adoption process.

    But the new way of doing things in St. Louis was epiphanied while watching an episode of Extreme Makeover: Home Edition. How is it that a whole house can be built in one week, without any new technology or extra people on the site?  And how could this same success be incorporated into the adoption process?  Could we have a Home Adoption: Extreme Edition?  This is what’s happening in the adoption agency in St. Louis.

    Instead of taking years to connect a child with a quality home, the whole agency focuses in on one child a week – applying for multiple placing services at once (verses one at a time) and pushing to get all cylinders firing to get this kid in a loving family.

    And most interestingly, for many of the children, that loving family is their own.

    The agency hires two private investigators to hunt down the rest of the original family of the foster child.  These gumshoes do pavement pounding, online research, and drum through the public records to contact uncles, grandmas, and cousins…anyone who might be distantly related to the abandoned child.

    Stats say that families are more likely to adopt an orphaned nephew or grandchild than a total stranger.  And studies are saying its healthier for the kid too.  It’s important that a young person is connected to their known family, and thus, a larger story.

    While reading Isaiah 43 today, I couldn’t help notice God describing himself as a “kinsman redeemer” - which fit perfectly with role of the private investigators.  A Redeemer in ancient society was to be a fail-safe of protection for a family if they got separated, sold into slavery, or otherwise in danger.  The Redeemer would either buy them out of slavery, or take action against the oppressors and rescue the family member. While foster homes are not exactly slavery – it is so encouraging to think that children across the nation are being fought for with such white-hot intensity, and re-assimilated into their very own family.

    For as long as it takes, this agency fights tooth and nail for the salvation of one little kid.

    And God is your Redeemer. He is carving a path through wilderness and trying to make contact with you. He wants to introduce you to his family…to RE-introduce you to a family you forgot you were a part of. His aim is to rescue you, to ransom you, to remind you of who you truly are.

    It can be frightening for children so long separated from their biological families to be reintroduced into the family system – but it is many times the healthiest thing for them. Give yourself the same chance - look for where your Redeemer is coming from, and run toward him.  Then be about the business of rescuing others!

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    • Sara 6:01 pm on January 5, 2011 Permalink

      I love this. The idea of re-introducing children to their families warms a counselor-in-training’s heart. This gives a kid so much more identity than if they are adopted by strangers. Of course, this is not always possible, so thank God for people who choose to adopt.

      To meet God is never really meeting him for the first time, is it? Since he was there all along : ) Being a part of his family unites us with our true identity.

    • sean 2:27 pm on January 6, 2011 Permalink

      Sara I like how you said, “…our true identity”. I couldn’t agree with that more. Mark, what an encouraging story to read in TIME, and in Isaiah. We were created to be part of a family, and that family to be apart of God’s family.

  • Mark 1:38 pm on November 4, 2009 Permalink | Reply
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    Layers of Christian Community: ‘Micro’ 

    It is no secret that this is the most neglected and forgotten layer in the Church.

    It is also in this layer that lies the secret to everything – the pathway to a spiritually vibrant community life.

    In the first layer we considered the power of a life centered on God.  While the Christian walk is never private, it is inherently personal; inviting each heart to pay attention to the love and power of God in their life.  Learning to cultivate a unique, organic relationship with the Divine is what produces the unyielding stream of life that Jesus promises in John 4.

    As John Donne has aptly stated, “No man, is an island.”  We cannot thrive as humans while separated from others.  Nevertheless, there is a neglect of the Micro Layer, especially in the West, where individualism and mass corporatism reign supreme.  We are a highly narcissistic bunch, and unfortunately, this makes truly engaging the lives of one or two others very difficult, if not impossible.  We want it to be “all about me” making “empathy,” “teamwork,” and “community” good ideas only…but ones that are never realized.

    Generally speaking, the Church in the West has only a tacit awareness of the Micro Layer – the communities of two or three.  Accountability groups became for many nothing more than sin-management sessions, and Catholic priestly confession took an important habit of the early church and distorted it, setting up an actual one-way wall that only invited one-way confessions.  In contrast, I believe that we are all priests, and we are all confessors. 1 Peter 2:9

    Much of the burden of  spiritual formation has been left up to two people in the Western Church: the first is the pastor, who does what one can to spiritually nurture a crowd once a week, and second, the loner Christian whose spiritual life and struggles are not to be shared with anyone else for fear of rejection from the group.  This becomes particularly toxic when the pastor takes his own spiritual formation as privately as the rest of us – which results in many of the clergy scandals we’ve seen in the news of late.

    But a quick skim through the relationships found in the Scriptures shows a different life.  David and Jonathan didn’t have the private-life reservations we Americans hold today.  They knew that life was best lived with a friend at your side.  Jonathan even made a vow of brotherhood to David in covenantal friendship, 1 Sam 18:3-4.  Or what about Moses and Aaron – learning to lean on each others’ strengths to fulfill the will of God that bound them together for life.  Or Paul and Barnabas, who relied on each other to earn the trust of Jewish Christians and Gentile skeptics for the sake of the Gospel.  Or Peter, James and John – Jesus’ tight knit band of brothers.  That’s what we need – we need a band of brothers.

    We need a fellowship of the heart that will fight for each other.  To be a place of sanctuary for another’s heart where they can feel safe to ask tough questions without fear of rejection, mutually confess sin, and realize dreams they could never achieve on their own.  Where the challenge of discipleship can be lived out on a practical level and practice the teachings of Jesus.  It is in the Micro Layer that we first experience God’s Kingdom come on Earth as it is in Heaven…the hard work of peace-making, reconciliation, and loving/ serving/ submitting/ praying for one another.

    It takes a church to raise a Christian.

    youarenotalone

    This is the smallest unit of church – where the core elements of the Church’s DNA are first expressed: Divine Truth, Nurturing Relationships, and Aposotlic Mission.  I think of the Micro Layer as the most important part of the church.

    Like leaves on a tree – they may be the weakest part of the organism, but leaves are where light enters in, and collectively they keep the tree healthy and strong.  If a tree has a strong trunk, but no healthy leaves, we assume the tree is sick and dying.  The same is true for a church – the massive worship gatherings may be strengthening to the church, but if marriages, fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, and soul friends throughout the crowd are not connecting with each other and inviting God to speak to them, there is something very sick about the church.  This is the power of the Micro Layer.

    Why do so many avoid the Micro Layer?  Because it is easier to keep our masks on and hide in our shadows.  But the benefits of community (Eccl 4:9-12), accountability (1 Tim 5:19), confession (Matt 18:15-17), flexibility (Matt 18:20), and especially reproducibility (2 Tim 2:2) bring transformation to every child of God.

    The Micro Layer is the “on ramp” for each disciple into living the abundant life Jesus promised and the earliest Christians experienced.

    I’ve observed that many, when they realize this piece of their spiritual life is lacking, quickly get frustrated because there is no program to join or curriculum to follow.  At the micro level, there are only simple structures.  Below are a few examples of the Micro Layer in action:

    • Life Transformation Groups – our organic church network attempts to make LTG’s a community practice.  It involves a same-gender group of 2-3 reading lots of God’s Word (25-30 chapters a week), confessing sin to each other while speaking forgiveness over each other, and praying for the lost.  The DNA of the Church in its most raw form.
    • CO2′s – or “church of two.” In addition to LTG’s we are pushing marriages and families to take on the task of being the church together in a daily way.  It means listening to our hearts and sharing them honestly with one other person.  Using the tool of SASHET and VIRKLER we are “listening attentively to my heart, your heart and God’s heart.”
    • Read up on the Anamchara from 6th Century Celtic Christians in Soul Friend.
    • Read the Shack, and consider the “Micro Layer” found in the Trinity!
    • Check out Centered by my friend and mentor Kent Smith.

    Why would Jesus send his 70 disciples out to share his gospel in pairs?  Couldn’t he have spread his message further with 70 individuals rather than 35 pairs?  I think his decision reveals God’s desire for a the human heart – to have a companion for the journey.  Whether its Adam and Eve, Paul and Timothy, or you and me, as soon as one disciple of Christ joins another, they become an “incarnate capsule of the Kingdom,” “Jesus with skin on,” displaying the glory of God through redemptive relationship.

    Imagine what would be different about the Church if everyone was in a covenant friendship with just one other Christian.  Just imagine…it would change the world.  The Micro Layer may be the hardest to find, and the hardest to keep – but for those who seek it – there is no doubt they will find it.  And lives will be transformed.

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